“Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new.”
—Ursula K. Le Guin
You care about your partner, but you’re stuck in a painful cycle
There are few things more painful than losing the ability to find and reach the person you love. I work with couples who are struggling with patterns of disconnection. I come from a place of deep compassion for partners on both sides, and an understanding that experiences shape our ways of being in relationship. During our sessions, we will create a safe space to share your truth with your partner. I use EFT (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy) to address painful patterns at the root and help you find your way home to each other. We will compassionately uncover the patterns that have formed for good reason, but that are getting in the way of having the relationship you long for. We'll learn ways to step outside of the painful pattern and heal your bond.
“To be human is to need others, and this is no flaw or weakness.” - Sue Johnson
What is EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy)
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is one of the most well-researched and effective approaches for couples therapy. Grounded in attachment science, EFT helps partners identify and shift the emotional patterns that keep them stuck in painful cycles like withdrawal, protest, or shutdown and guides them toward new ways of reaching for each other with clarity, safety, and care.
Unlike approaches that focus mainly on communication techniques or problem-solving, EFT goes to the emotional heart of the relationship. It helps couples understand why those same fights keep happening and how deeper needs for closeness, reassurance, and understanding often drive conflict beneath the surface.
Research shows that EFT leads to lasting improvements for 70–75% of couples, with even higher rates of significant change. Studies also show that EFT helps reduce distress in couples dealing with trauma, attachment injuries, or chronic conflict and that the gains tend to hold over time.
If you’ve tried talking things out and nothing seems to shift, EFT offers a different path. It’s not about quick fixes or blame. It’s about helping both partners feel seen, safer, and more emotionally connected.
